Feb 17 2009
Dealing with (angry) women
Why is it so hard to deal with an angry woman?
Why (we men) are doing it well with angry women, when we treat them as children?
And why do we lose the fight when they succeed to get blood under our nails?
In my perception, women are ALWAYS seeking for buttons. All of them, no exceptions. In (the beginning of) an average relationship she will usually find those buttons within several weeks, few months at most. With tough guys it can take some time, but they will find those buttons for sure. They always do, as they are genetically programmed to do so.
Interestingly enough, women ALWAYS know the purpose of each button. What they on the other hand DO NOT know, is where the buttons are hidden, as some men are smarter and tougher then the other… And even when the buttons are found, just a very few men are able to guard them well.
The clue is, each woman wants to control (her) man, as they are control freaks. And in order to do that, they have to control those buttons first.
Women, the greatest control freaks
For comparison, NO male boss of a huge company, who is well known of being control freak himself (otherwise he is powerless, and climbing up in hierarchy wouldn’t be possible in the first place) can take it up against woman. Not even against average woman..
I meet couples all the time. Couples within my friends circles, couples I see when going out, those I meet on parties… or any other social circumstances. Within far most of those couples/relationships, woman is the boss. How huge is that percentage, I don’t know for sure, but it’s huge. Let’s say 90%.
90% of women run their relationships/marriages, the way they rise their kids, households (including the money) and all. Women even decide who are their (family) friends and which friends should be visited by the couple, and which not. They also make decisions when they will have sex with their men (or some other men). They push the buttons - and their men follow. And all that on very fine, even subliminal level.
The beauty of this type of relationships, is that these women are true control artists. She will often give her man a feeling that HE is actually in charge, so he ain’t even aware of her controlling the buttons. That way they both are able to live successfully in their little harmony. I spoke to some of these 90% ladies and they confirmed my view on that issue being very accurate.
The most of these (90%) women, dream in reality about men they can not control, but they will mostly stay with their boyfriends and their husbands, as the risk of losing their relationships and their marriages is just too big for them. They actually don’t want to take that risk at all, as it might often mean = losing everything they have. So they accept being happy with buttons they CAN control.
Looking for an Alpha male
Aproximately 9% of other women are nothing like that. Also these women want to know where the buttons are, but once they find them and start pushing on them, fun is gone.
These women will often say: men are easy to manage because they are predictable!
Eventually, they will seek for another guy, who is much bigger challenge and who’s buttons are much better hidden and well guarded. They will go looking for an Alpha male. An Alpha male whom they CAN NOT control.
And when they find such a man, the swords fight begins.
If she wins, he’s out of business.
If she loses, she can be his woman forever.
It’s then up to a man to decide if he wants her for a while or even the rest of his life or not.
Just like when a hunter is about to decide what he should do with his prey.
Woman being angry
During the swords fight, women will often (very, very often) use their most powerful weapon; being angry. And when angry, woman shall act like a child. She will also not listen, she will twist his words, turn any situation/event upside down and just be unreasonable… in order to push him into the corner and (try to) make him feel powerless.
Often she will (try to) get blood under his nails and intentionally or unintentionally make him feel like he could kill her.
It’s all part of the ritual.
When the woman is misused (let’s say damaged) by her ex-partners, she can go into extremes within such a ritual. She’ll wave with knifes and yell things like: “I’m gonna plug you motherf*cker!”
Swords fight
Her ultimate goal during the swords fight is obvious. She’ll do her best to un-weapon the man, to push him into the corner, shut his mouth up - and make him (feel) powerless. Her ultimate goal is to get control over his buttons and thus control over him.
His ultimate goal is to guard his buttons well and to let her NEVER accomplish just that.
Other women
So, what happened to those one percent of women left?
I personally believe these are man-woman (not lesbian though), not woman-woman, altruist types - who behave as being equal with their partners and let their partners be equal to them. Both are self confident and probably well educated. These type of women think like their men do. So they understand eachother more or less perfectly, but there is far less “fire” being involved, then when he would otherwise be with one of the other two types of women.
I think I’ll leave it right here for now, and I’ll cage this angry woman*, so she can’t fight back for a while.. but don’t worry, in my next article I’ll release her again, so I’ll go a bit more into a depth of how to deal with her anger. ;-)
Caged woman
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| Caged angry woman. |
Model: Joyce.
Photo by: Danny van Heumen (www.unichorn72.punt.nl).
* Joyce is one of my favorite models. I fortunately haven’t see her angry yet, and this cage was for the picture only. I’d like to keep it that way. :))
March 11th, 2009 at 6:13 am
nice cage picture
April 24th, 2009 at 8:46 am
so when does the next article come out?
April 26th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
I hope never this is a very sad way of thinking. This artist traveler man wants to rule women. Between the lines you can read his manupilations, terrors and frustration. …Relation is not about equility but just quality I think and know. You have to work on your own angerness, and relationship (if you once get it) both woman and man. So go on and learn this lesson WTA.
April 28th, 2009 at 12:52 am
@joaco, I hope soon.
@Lessy, my lines are clear, no need to read between them.
Thanks for your reaction anyway. Somehow it’s refreshing. ;-)
May 3rd, 2009 at 10:28 am
I enjoyed your witing! And you are right! haha!
As an Alpha Female it’s not easy too, mabye you can wright about this too.
(ik miste de touwen/’the web’ (spider) in the photo! But it a beautifull picture!
June 10th, 2009 at 8:42 pm
It is not spelled “alfa” male, it is spelled “alpha” male.
June 12th, 2009 at 4:25 am
Thanx @Edward! My English ain’t perfect yet, but now I travel and use English a lot, it’s promising. :)
@Corine, I’d like to read the articles from Alpha female’s point of view but couldn’t find those yet. Maybe I lock some of my Alpha (girl)friends into the cage and release them after they wrote some articles on this issue whaha.
September 16th, 2009 at 6:42 pm
i think i’m like a hard woman who is sometimes very controlling. when i have a no-alpha man, it’s very easy to get the control of the relationship and that’s boring me all the time.
but i’m not the kind of manipulative, demanding woman. i don’t like that kind of girls.
For my sake, i have my own Alpha macho ahahaha. and sometimes he hunted me and vice versa.
is more fun, is more sexy!.
and i think when an alpha male and alpha woman are together i’ts very weird and you can see that couple is very different then the others. they almost are shinning and they look inexplicable happy and strong.
i like that.
Hey Alex, now you need to write about a Dealing with a (angry) men !!!
i want to see what you think about that! sometimes men are worse then girls!
October 4th, 2009 at 6:20 am
There is actually a reason women try to control, but it’s not out of maliciousness.
Women try to control their men to see if they are strong enough to resist. Deep down, most women crave a man who is strong enough to protect them against the world. If she can control her man, then how good job can he do at protecting her? Worse yet, if she can control him, then other women can too. Not someone that she can feel secure being with.
In a nutshell, men want their women happy, women want their men strong.
Good luck with yours!
October 4th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
@TC, yes… they are shining. Just look at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie for instance.. both Alpha. Another good (shining) example was former couple: Tom Cruise & Nicole Kidman, or (also former couple): Madonna & Sean Penn.
And (off the record) I think I read somewhere (could be lies though.. :)) that, when these guys have sex together, the earth starts shaking.. like when drinking a lot’s of terremoto’s whaha.
..as for “men sometimes being worse then girls”… then why don’t you write it yourself, when you know it that well?! ;-)
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@Al, an interesting view on this subject. I’ll pay even more attention next time you speak!
December 7th, 2009 at 2:19 pm
Thank god someone out there understands the powerlessness and humiliation of being a male who will want to kill the girl simply because she deserves it.
She will push and twist words, use every trick to be a shaming, blaming, invading parasite and just when you tell her to *uck off she screams abandonment and turns on the tears or worse still opens the love pocket and and around we go again.
I love your writing.
I am not at all angry with women just their unaccountability.
Judd
December 8th, 2009 at 2:47 am
@Judd, if you could make all the pretty women dance around you, the way you’d want them to dance, every Saturday night.. would you do that?
I think life is far more challenging and exciting if you can’t do that, not with the most of them - and not all the time at least.
December 30th, 2009 at 11:07 am
Great article!
December 30th, 2009 at 6:23 pm
@Anthony, thank you.
March 24th, 2010 at 7:34 pm
ACK, it has been confirmed. you are indeed a woman hater
March 24th, 2010 at 7:38 pm
Lol.. glad u loved the story @HsiMay. :)
August 19th, 2010 at 9:30 pm
haha, its so true. I know so many guys who are controlled by their partners. They’re too scared to man up incase they upset her or for fear of losing her.
MAN UP and your woman will respect you.
September 17th, 2010 at 3:10 am
I find this article a bit interesting. I find the best way to control the button pushing is ignoring your wife and then when her anger hits the peak get up and walk out of the room. Keeps them coming back for more.
January 12th, 2011 at 10:49 am
Your article could hold true in your part of the world. In more conservative cultures, such as India/Pakisthan/Middle East, the man is a boss.
In India, divorces have been won, because a man and his family said the girl did not “OBEY”.
I am sorry you had to generalize so much. I am sure even in your part of the world, people aren’t intentionally control freaks. It could be paranoia and other reasons but I am sure a good couple will always work out a balance. No point speaking of people are just on and off relationships/marriages. That’s some concept that’s alien to me and my society.
January 23rd, 2011 at 7:31 am
So to sum up, women have all the rights and all the power, and men have nothing, Sounds about right to me.. No wonder I spent most of my life being single, I now wish I spent ALL of my life being single (at least I had less problems)
June 23rd, 2011 at 7:15 pm
Wow! Blame women much? I think men need to take some accountability in all this. I mean why would anyone allow themselves to get push around and feel intimidated by another person (male or female), then STAY in that relationship. Smacks of insecurity to me. As a strong, independent woman I think the worst thing you could do to a man is to emasculate him, it’s just disrespectful and humiliating. But guys, why would you stick around and allow that to happen to you? Move on and find someone who will let you be the man, the warrior and know your worth. Life’s too short to be treading on eggshells.
August 15th, 2011 at 5:08 am
women are evil by nature, they cant help it. they use theyre sexual beauty to torture theyre spouses and twist logic to theyre advantage. its a shame. lots of good men would gladly share an equal relationship,but unless you are rich or physically perfect they could care less.